Like my new car? I do. It’s two years older than I am an in practically new condition. It drives fantastic, and it’s clean. The thing about it is, it only seats two. How much more obviously childfree can I be?

Not a “family car”

How Selfishly Childfree And Immorally Atheist People Car Shop

I got a new car last week. I wasn’t exactly planning on buying a car that day, but I did. I was actually just browsing lots with my boyfriend, trying to figure out how we could help some friends of ours out who had found themselves in a sticky situation. Our friends are a family of three (the child is my “god(less)son,”) who, unfortunately, were having a bit of trouble. They had only one car, a two-seater, which didn’t fit their seating needs. Recently, this car was damaged beyond drivability in an accident, which wasn’t my friend’s fault. They had no budget to fix the car or buy a new one. And not having a car is a big deal for anyone.

So, my boyfriend and I browsed lots. Eventually, we stumbled upon a bright red 1986 Nissan 300ZX in excellent condition with only 78K miles. It had apparently been in a garage and under a tarp since the year that I was born. The body was in near perfect shape, the interior was luxurious, and it was beautiful under the bonnet too. We took it for a test drive immediately and it was just a dream. The asking price was out of the range of my friends, but very affordable for myself. It was a little hard to find financing for a car so old, as it was difficult for companies to ascertain its value, but I eventually got it and drove the car home that very night. Score.

As for my friends, well, I no longer needed my 2005 Chevy Aveo. It wasn’t a great car by any means, and wouldn’t be even if it was in perfect condition, which it was not, I admit. But it ran fine and safe and easily seated five and had deceptively ample boot space for groceries. My friends joked about donning robes and starting a cult around me after I agreed to gift the Aveo to them for free.

I think we always have a soft spot for our first car. I’ll remember my Aveo fondly. It has served me well, allowing me the freedom to leave post, have fun, go shopping, move, and get to work. And, despite some unfortunate neglect, it has never let me down. And now that humble Aveo has moved on to aid someone else. So a car that a friend of mine once sold me to help me out when I was a young, lonely soldier in need of transportation but unable to get financing (due to having no credit history at the time,) is now faithfully serving someone else in need.

Goodbye, my “Brave Little Toaster.”

It’s times like this I wish I was still doing my 365 Good Deeds Challenge series. (I only quit that because some days I stayed home and didn’t really go anywhere or do anything.) This deed has to be worth at least a few, I figure. What was that about atheists having no reason to be good without god and childfree people being selfish? Fuck you, stereotypes.

ANYWAY, I’m not writing talk myself up. Truth be told, I’ve been meaning to replace my Aveo with something better for some time now anyway, but couldn’t justify spending the money when my Aveo still ran just fine. This was just a nice excuse for me. And I did find something better. Much better, in fact. And I’m glad that I did.

1986 Nissan 300ZX. My boyfriend and I are both fans of BBC’s Top Gear, so my boyfriend jokingly calls my new car “the pornographer’s car.” As long as he doesn’t throw my T-tops into a ravine, we’re good. We’ve also joked that it was a time-traveling car, as it is in new condition over two decades after its creation.

My “new” car is actually older than I am (the “88” in my user name isn’t some Nazi reference, as a few dumb trolls have suggested. It’s the year of my birth.) However, it’s in just marvelous condition, inside and out. I do believe the dealer (something I’m reluctant to ever do) when he said that the previous owner had been storing the vehicle safely in a garage for years before finally trading it in for a Corvette. The only thing I can think to do with the 300ZX is replace the muffler, which isn’t actually a problem as it is.

My boyfriend and I were already admiring the 300ZX when the dealer came out to greet us. He didn’t even try to direct us towards “family cars,” despite us being obviously a couple. Not once did the dealer even mention children. There must be something about us that just screams “childfree.” Or, more probably, the dealer simply didn’t want to talk us out of a car we were already interested in.

Whereas a car that only seats two is a problem for a couple with a child, as was the case with the friends that I mentioned earlier, it’s just perfect for a childfree family. My boyfriend and I didn’t really need 14 seats between three vehicles for just us and a dog, which is what we had before. Losing three seats isn’t a problem for us.

The 300ZX is nice! I got the non-turbo model, but it’s still quite fast. Judging by the condition, I doubt many horses have escaped over the years. I love the nearly flawless red paint on a sexy body, and the locking T-tops on the roof are very nice. The interior is lovely, with cloth seats with lumbar support on the driver’s side, and a leather dashboard with an orange-lit instrument panel. I feel like I’m driving a James Bond car. Or maybe it’s Night-Rider, as the voice of “Bitching Betty” helpfully informs me when I leave my lights on, like an idiot. Unlike my old Aveo, my 300ZX has an alarm, central locking, power windows, cruise control, and speakers that are actually work very well. Happily, it costs even less to insure than my Aveo did, even with full coverage.

The only downsides for me are going to be getting used to driving a manual, and getting used to having a long bonnet. I might also need a pedal extender for the clutch as I’m a bit short. These are very minor things, which I will get over. All in all, it’s a fantastic car, and a definite step up from my previous car. This is the best car that I’ve ever driven. I’m very excited to have it. My boyfriend, who drives an 05 Pontiac GTO, tells me he’s slightly jealous. I’m a bit proud of that.

That’s the nice thing about being childfree. I can just go out and buy a car, and pay it off quickly. Being childfree doesn’t mean that I’m rich, I’m certainly not. But I don’t have the financial burden of children. More than that, I can buy whatever car that I want and can afford, with little concern for seating or storage space, which is something I would have to think about had I a larger family. Additionally, I can do this without much worry that the interior will be ruined in the same manner that my young self mindlessly ruined my parents’ cars, which I regret very much in hindsight. I can have nice things. I can have fun things.

I’m not bragging. If it sounds that way, I can’t really help it as there’s not really any other way to tell this story. It’s just that buying the car has made me think about being childfree a little more. See, some people who don’t understand what being childfree is all about, and see it as merely the absence of children, don’t get what there is to talk about when it comes to the topic. “What does it matter? Who cares?” (Although, a significant number of people DO appear to care, hence the bingos and unkind stereotypes.)

This car situation between my friends and myself is an excellent example of why it matters. Childfree means more than simply not having children around, it means having a completely different lifestyle, and different options, because there are no children to consider. Being childfree has allowed me to purchase a car that I just love, which I probably would have never even been able to consider were I a mother, for a number of reasons. And being childfree helped put me in a position of being able to lend help to others in this particular situation. At my current income, if I had a child, I couldn’t have afforded to buy the car that I did. I certainly couldn’t have afforded to just give my old one away for free. Similarly, being parents made my old Aveo far more valuable to my friends than it ever was for me, even with its faults.

I would never say that I am better than anyone else for being childfree. I’m not. But being childfree is certainly better for me, personally, which is something that I’ve always known. I will remember this story the next time someone accuses me of being “selfish” or “immoral” for being childfree and an atheist, respectively. And when someone tells me I don’t know what I’m missing for not having children, I’ll laugh as I drive away in my shiny, red sports car.

Live the life you want to live and be happy. If you’re able to, help the people you can help, not because you think a god is watching and not because you expect reciprocation later, but because it’s the right thing to do. Fuck stereotypes. I know I’m not selfish or immoral, and I don’t need this, or any other story, to prove it. Haters gonna hate.

Now all I have to do is learn how to drive a manual…

Posted on 2012/05/04, in 365 Deeds, Atheism, childfree, Colorado, Diary, People, Vehicle. Bookmark the permalink. 18 Comments.

  1. I drove 4 on the floor from 1972 to 2007.

  2. Your generosity is a wonderful thing.

    • Julie Was Here

      I’ve been helped out by others a great many times in my life when I found myself in need.

  3. SimplicityComplex

    I thought you might get a chuckle out of this blog article:

    • Julie Was Here

      I think I may have read that before, or at least something very similar.

      The comments are interesting.

      • SimplicityComplex

        Yes, I found them amusing myself! Congrats on the car, of course, it’s lovely.

  4. Congrats on the new car and kudos on passing along the old one to your friends. The bit about the seats reminded me when I got my Mazda 3 people assumed I got it so I wouldn’t have to buy another if I became a mom. I just liked being able to put my dog’s crate in the backseat (and now that we have two dogs there’s enough room for both). It is nice to have the freedom to only worry about what we want in a car though. I like this and agree: “Childfree means more than simply not having children around, it means having a completely different lifestyle, and different options, because there are no children to consider.” Personally, I love the life and options we have that I know we wouldn’t with kids.

    • Julie Was Here

      My BF and I have a dog. We mostly use our Nissan Pathfinder as our “family vehicle.” She’s calm on car rides, so we don’t crate her. We do have a special car tarp over our back seats for her though, as she 1. sheds and 2. is often dirty after a hike. We also have a special seat belt harness for her that really comes in handy when we drive off-road.

      • Cool. One of mine is calm; the other not so much. I have considered using a tarp when it’s a shorter trip and/or we don’t need the crate where we’re going. The seat belt harness is a good idea also.

        • Julie Was Here

          We usually keep the seat belt harness on her out of the car as it doubles as a normal harness that I can just attach the leash to

          • That’s cool. I was looking at getting a harness for the min pin because he gets super-excited on walks and pulls too much on his leash. I may just have to look for one that doubles.

  5. A childed person could not have afforded to give away their car for free to someone in need. I drive a 15-year old civic so I may find myself in need one day, haha. Seriosuly, I’d love my next car to be a two-seater and that is a wonderfully sleek red vehicle.

    • Julie Was Here

      Yeah. That’s not to say that no childed person ever has a spare car that they can donate, or that all childfree people do. I just know that if I had kids, the car I got would not have been an option, nor would I have likely been able to give a car away for free.

  6. The 1986 Nissan 300ZX is very nice!!!

    • Julie Was Here

      Thanks, I quite like it. :)

      It needs a new muffler, which I’ll happily install just as soon as I find a stock part. And it’s recently developed a bit of a squeak which I believe may be a belt, but that’s not much of a problem to fix. And the paint is a bit cracked, being quite old, so I might have it re-done sometime. And it didn’t come with cup holders, so I had to buy those, which was no big deal really.

      Other than that, it’s perfect. I certainly like it quite a lot.

      • The older stuff is more reliable than the new stuff being made today. I prefer not to own a vehicle myself, since I’m not into cars. But, anything that screams childfree is good in my book.

  7. In answer to “how to shop for a child-free car?” i have only motorcycles. No cars at all. Hire a cab twice a year when VirtuaCat needs to go out on the town. How’s that for mobility and carbon footprint reduction? I can even it the CSA share in the side packs (BMW R1200GS).

    As for giving stuff away: gave away a Honda Acura, air conditioner, king bed, sofa, and the clicher, front loading washer and dryer to friend with 4 kids and no way out from under her financial limitations. I figured, four kids, she must have tons of laundry. I bet I saved her hours a week for years with that gift. Her husband said,”How much do you want or the washer-dryer?” I was thinking, it cost $1,700. What amount could you possibly give me that could help pay for it and won’t burden your family? “Just take it,” I said and then I made payments on it for the next five years! It was worth it to make my friend’s life better.

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